How to survive this holiday season without losing your mind
by Katerina Fager
Thanksgiving is this Thursday and millions of people are traveling many miles to visit their extended families. For many people holidays are a time to be spent with their family, relax, eat good food and talk. Thanksgiving is also a time when all of us should be grateful for what we have and realize how blessed we are for having a family. However, if you have a challenging family, your holidays might become one big nightmare. If you fall into this category, here are some tips on how to deal with it without losing your mind.
1) Tell yourself that whatever will happen, it is not your fault.
You can’t control everyone’s behavior, but you can control yours. Usually, the most miserable people will try to push your buttons and touch your sensitive areas to get reactions from you. Don’t get sucked into the drama. Focus on your responses and stay calm. If you will start getting emotional, excuse yourself and leave to the bathroom to calm down.
2) Go prepared.
Think in advance about some topics of conversation and try to keep it simple. If your family can’t have a normal conversation without getting into arguments, think about some topics and be the guide.
3) Stay away from conversations about politics.
Make it clear to stay away from talking about anything political. These types of conversations in any family can get very heated and your holiday dinner will become one big nightmare very quickly.
4) No expectations.
Don’t expect your family members to act differently than last year. If your uncle Bob got drunk and nasty last year, this year it won’t be any different. Don’t let negative people ruin your day. Be prepared and have no expectations.
5) Connect with positive family members.
The good news is, that for sure not everyone in your family is not ill-willed. Stay close to those whom you like and they like you. You will feel more relaxed and positive.
6) Don’t be the peacemaker.
If your dinner will turn into one big argument among some family members, stay out of it. Don’t be the peacemaker; let those arguing solve their own problems.
7) Keep yourself busy.
Try to help your grandma, mom, or whoever in the kitchen. Or maybe help with taking care of the children.
8) Keep your children away from drama.
Always make sure your children don’t witness rude, nasty relatives. Take kids outside and play with them.
9) And last…BREATHE, it is going to be over soon. Happy Holidays
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